How to feel like you are enough.
Updated: Dec 19, 2021
Ever feel like you’re not doing enough or not good enough? This can be easy to identify when we notice our constant self-criticism in our thoughts. Or it may disguise itself as feeling as though you ‘never have enough time in the day’. This is a common feeling that many of us have, particularly when we are experiencing a negative mindset, embarking on a new career or experiencing a change in our lives. However, we can still find ways to deal with this feeling so that it does not stop us from being our true selves and living life to our full potential.
Pay attention to your thoughts
We can create moments of stillness throughout the day (even if it is only a few minutes) to notice our thoughts. When we are busy trying to meet everyone else’s expectations, we often live life in autopilot and sometimes don’t even realise how mean we are towards ourselves. Negative self-talk is a habit and in order to change a habit, we need to first become aware of it. Think about the way you criticize yourself. Would you talk to a friend in the same way? How would you react if someone spoke to you the way you speak to yourself? Asking yourself these questions can help you realise how ridiculous this behaviour is and start to break the pattern. Think of an affirmation or mantra that you can repeat over and over the break this habit of negative self-talk.
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Stop the comparison
As a yoga entrepreneur, this is definitely something I have struggled with in the past and it sometimes rears its ugly head even now. We see what everyone else is doing (thankyou social media!) and think that we are not doing enough. We all know that social media shows only the good parts of someone’s reality. Don’t compare your journey to someone else’s. We rarely see where they have struggled, how long they have been struggling for, and other problems they have faced along the way. If you feel jealous of someone else’s achievements or good fortune, you may not be aware of the story behind this person’s accomplishments. Just notice and acknowledge the feeling (it is a normal part of being human). It may be a sign that you need to reassess your own goals or desires. Recognise that we are all in different stages of our life journey.
Recognise small wins
Stop looking at what you are not doing right, have not achieved yet, or a skill you have not yet mastered. Instead, give yourself credit for your small wins. Achievement of a bigger desire or outcome comprises a series of smaller goals. It may just be that you got the